Q I’ve lost weight really fast on diets before, but I put it back on. I know I’ll lose weight more slowly using a non–diet weight loss programme. So should I do a diet first to lose the weight and then change to your programme?
A No, we wouldn’t recommend this. Every time you go on a diet, you mess up your metabolism and destroy trust with your unconscious mind. You will also lose muscle and even risk getting gallstones. You will just have more work to do to get to the point where you can be slim without dieting, so it is really not a good idea.
Q Does your programme involve restricting your eating?
A No, it is a non–diet weight loss approach which means that you eat when you are hungry. This is when your body needs food.
When you are not hungry but feel like eating, your body doesn’t actually want food – it wants something else. We help you work out what this is, so you gradually stop wanting to eat when you’re not hungry and get to the point where you are losing weight without restricting yourself or dieting.
On this program, there are no forbidden foods.
Q When you say it is about losing weight without dieting, do you really mean I can eat whatever I want?
A Yes. There are no forbidden foods. We encourage you to really listen to what your body wants. Also, as you get better at this, we encourage you to notice how you feel after you eat certain foods. If you feel sluggish after certain foods, you can choose to limit them in future. It is up to you.
Q But I’ll eat chocolate and muffins all day!
A Actually people don’t. Just try it. If you know you can have chocolate and muffins whenever you want, you probably won’t want them so much. Clients also say that when they slow down and really taste these foods, they don’t like them so much!
Q Shouldn’t I stick to low fat food?
A No. Fats have been in our diet for millions of years. They fill us up and (unless eaten with sugar and refined carbohydrates) do not appear to contribute to weight gain (think Atkins diet).
Q Are there any foods you recommend avoiding?
A If you want to look after yourself, think about keeping to a minimum the foods that humans have not been eating very long (in evolutionary terms). These include processed foods, artificial sweeteners, hydrogenated vegetable oils, sugar and refined carbohydrates (white bread, cakes, pastries, biscuits).
Q Why do I want to eat when I’m not hungry?
A There are many reasons! Essentially, your brain learns to associate food with feeling betterAs an example, suppose as a child you got upset and your Mum or Dad came and gave you a chocolate bar and a cuddle to cheer you up. Your young brain makes a connection: “chocolate = affection and feeling better”.
When you are older and feel upset, your unconscious mind will remember that connection and compel you to eat chocolate in the hope that it will make you feel better. These kinds of connections can be changed through modern psychological techniques such as NLP. Willpower doesn’t change the connection so doesn’t work long term. It is using a conscious strategy to deal with an unconscious connection.
Q Will I have to be weighed?
A No. It is totally up to you whether you disclose your weight.
We encourage you not to weigh yourself while learning the system. When you learn any new skill, you are not brilliant at first. Remember crunching the gears when you were learning to drive? Nobody said: “Oh my God, you crunched the gears – you’re a failure, you have no control over your movements. Give up driving!”
Once you have completed the basic program, you may wish to weigh yourself for one of two reasons –
- 1. Infrequently, say every month or so to make sure you’re on track; or
- 2. Regualarly, to gain feedback from your body about certain foods and the effect they have on you. But you have to promise to treat this as feedback and not get all upset and self-loathing about it!